This is, if she had the ONE dog and didnt have it take precedence over her relationship and obsess about it then it wouldnt really be an issue but I ended up disliking the dog(s) because of her attitude with them. I had to pull him off and fix the gate back stronger. One time I went outside to grab something out of the car, I came back after a few minutes, the 50 pound dog jumped on the table, stole my food and it was scattered over the floor and there was a lake of pee in the living room. My dogs are well-behaved and calm. I went back two days later and retrieved them. my question is , is it wrong of me to get upset cause the dog gets all the attention and I barely get any. Well I wonder why? I still love my husband and know after his furry lover dies, no other dog will be brought into our home or the animal will be granted human status. I feel a relationship should be a balance.. I grew up with working ranch dogs. Understand that each can be a part of your life if you wise up and stop ruining your dogs life by allowing it to expect to live as a human. We recently had some severe weather out by our home, while I was out of town, and my SO told me in detail how she took her dog to the basement and secured it in its kennel and sat on top of it, then briefly mentions having our child in the car seat next to her. Well, its been a few weeks now and his ass hasnt calmed down. ive been forced to sleep in the spare room a lot of nights because she moves about constantly and snores and keeps me up the whole night. I want to find the dog a new home while my boyfriend is in love with the dog and wants to keep her even though hes at work all day and only sees her at night for a couple hours. Ive always wanted them to be trained properly but my husband just wants to spoil them and do whatever they want. he lies on her keyboard, on her paperwork, gets between us during intimate moments. I offered to pay for a local dog whisperer to come into the situation as many times as needed to address a compromise but she wouldnt think of it. When I brought this up to my boyfriend, he said Who cares? Its good that there are normal dog owners like you. :/. I dont have children and they have filled that void in my life. Id like to post a general question to the audience concerning the health of dogs and their owners. Shes actually part min pin and part Doxie. I am seeing my partner for two years now and convinced Im loved more than her dog. Trust me. Sometimes.its not the pet. Her dog could go next door and like you said, be fed a steak, and stay over there forgetting who she is. My main point of concern is that she brought responsibility, financial and time burdens into my life without my approval. I never thought a pet could cause a breakup but this thing is about to. There are times when I feel like choking that dog due to the amount of aggravation from him not being obedient and being spoiled !!! i have three chihuahuas who i had long before me and him met and the first thing i asked was if he liked dogs. Walking, playing, feeding, etc and I clean more than he does for the fact that animals shed and I feel it is necessary to accommodate. I rescued her without the permission of my spouse and we have been fighting ever since. The science sites I have viewed said that it is in the cats dna to be able to survive outdoors even after living inside for many years. (ie, frantic jumping/clawing at company that goes on for 10+ minutes. Now despite my efforts, the dog is destroying my garden, ripping out my roses especially. I am beyond fed up with Bobbi! My family however took my exs side because to them he put on such a facade he could do no wrong. You dont try to lure anyone one into your life and expect them to get rid of with what package they came with. The dog is old and likely wont live another year. I tried calling no answer, so text her why is your dog here? Ok I get that, so I tell him where an ear plug that way we can address the barking together more effectivly. This is the exact way I feel. Stay out of the kitchen when we are eating (would also want when we are cooking), stay off the couch and out of the bedroom. It doesnt like to be with anyone but my girlfriend, wont come out of its room unless my girlfriend is present. Doesnt see our kids. Like I said, they are dog owners but they are sensible ones that never take their dog to a restaurant or shopping etc. Life brings change and sometimes the animal does not fit in with that change. People are way too into saying put the pet above the human relationship and thats a bunch of B.S. They go berserk at anyone that comes near the house but im not alloud to interveen to shut them up, my daughter calls me a c##t and my wife says im a bastard but not to my face. Sam Basso He knows his place in the pecking order. My blood boils because she is a very smart dog and knows this is wrong. Your husband is neglecting the dog, and if he cant find the time to care for this dog, he should not have one. He has gotten use to the room and plus this dog can sleep for like 8-12 hours a days, sometimes even more. Ive been married 16 years. I find this very unsanitary. I keep telling him that this dog will also calm down and how everybody we meet on walks thinks my dog is amazing, he is happy to see everybody and cuddles for a few minutes and then is ready to move on. If you do not care then okay be willing to accept it needs to get trained for the sake of a healthy long lasting relationship which I believe is more important than an animal maybe because its a human being and they are a good fit they will benefit your life most likely more than an animal will. Hes had this dog for six years prior to me, so shes been with him for a long time. I would really have to wonder if the problem was with my pet or if the problem was actually with me and he was using the pet as the scapegoat. You and your partner made a promise to love each other not to split for a freaking animal. He likes her because she acts sweet to him and he has a lot more patience than I do. Reason why? The dog doesn't deserve you anger, or to lose his home. How dramatic, is that? I put up with it initially but then I had enough. I read some of these comments and I must admit some of them are just unrealistic. I was wondering if youve found any good solutions.? Im not sure how much more of this I will be able to tolerate :-(. I am not a dog person so I leave the animal care to her. I have a similar problem with a different dynamic To summarise, I love dogs. Family too but the dog will stay. Chat with your veterinarian about spay or neuter the dog. I was beginning to look at my husband quite differently and cry. I feel like we live in a prison with these dogs, and Im a 4th class citizen under him and 2 dogs. My dog was never a fan of his dog and I dont blame her. They seem to think that the dogs comfort is supposed to take priority over the comfort of our human guests. Giving priority to the dog over the husband. They wanted the cat back that I wound up having to give to my would be mother in law BC it was just dandy we couldnt have a cat but god forbid we found a place that wouldnt let him keep his dog. If they get some exercise, good food and some attention when others ate here, they will be fine on their own for awhile. When you do your relationship with your dog and SO will be alot more successful. He said that was just the nature of the breed and we couldnt do anything about it even though I absolutely HATE a wild dog jumping all over me when I first come home :-( The truth is, he just couldnt stand to see/hear his dog whining during the training (like keeping him on a leash when people came over until he calmed down), and would give in, and when I tried to keep it up, would get mad at ME. For the most part, my partner is a wonderful and loving person. We have 2 dogs. Years ago I had a niece who got some sort of virus infection on her nose that the doctor said was from her dog. Weve had her for 9 yrs since she was 6 mo old. He didnt want to go, because he couldnt miss his babies for 7 days. Since I moved in she has become really jealous of our relationship, I try to lay on the couch with him and she wont let me she pulls me off every time and he thinks its funny so he makes me get up and lets her get on the couch with him. I told him it was me or the cat. I may sound angry right now because i am. I strongly disagree and when I said this, he got really angry at me. Dog eats off his plate and will get on counter and lick frying pan or eat whatever i have thawing out. A dog lives 10 years tops, humans live avg 85 years.hmmm when dog dies, and it will, who will be there longer. Boyfriend woke up cussing and put him outside. currently, she sleeps in the bed with her, is very very clingy, moans if there is no constant attention and very manipulative. Jake- it just feels good that there are people who understand! So the dogs stay away from him whenever possible. He said I should have known he didnt like dogs. I am a light sleeper and cannot sleep with snoring (she is a pug and snores quite loud), not to mention Ive never liked having a dog sleep in my room. You dont have to hate animals to hate your significant others pet. Well 3 months ago a rescue needed a home and she looked just like my old dog..I couldnt help it. The problem is that people who love dogs can not fathom why there are people who dont like them. I allow the dog in the basement. Funny how they excepted us with our pets and now that things got more serious they want to change our situation. This is getting out of control. He doesnt want to get rid of the dogs even though Ive calmly discussed how hes putting his feelings before mine & care more about his desire. He wouldnt give me ANY attention. Sounds like your partner is a narcissist, please join a narcissist support group on Facebook and check it for yourself. Its been a month since Ive written and my girl friend and I broke up. I really dont want one of the dogs being so much hassle. The owners (in this case it s your boyfriends, girlfriends ) do not know how to train a dog ! A bed is a place for a married couple to bond and have intimate times, not a place for animals. And this is how I feel about my boyfriends pets. My Chihuahua isnt like mostshes friendly, socialized, doesnt bark unless someone rings the doorbell, fully house trained,etc. Pets are ok when they are in their place, not when they run the home. He has let his own life turmoil set the behavior of this dog. Some of our friends and family members are not dog people, and well be damned if we alienate those people over a dog. Thankfully, the trainer was able to work with them to correct that behavior. These people dont change and will turn against you for their dog. I keep joking saying I want to get rid of her and he hows back hell get rid of me but Im partially not joking. Love your pets, but everyone has a rank in the pecking order. She never relieved herself in the house. The man obviously has a very dysfunctional relationship with his dog. He has boundaries and is well excerised. then why cant SHE take the cat, if its hers? Then my bf would get mad at me for making unreasonable demands ie, basically just wanting the dog to be trained. He even expected damages and cleanup to remain my issue. He's allowed to be Continue Reading 31 Kevin Mcelroy Author has 4.8K answers and 1.4M answer views 2 y She sits on the furniture which I hate and when she jumps on she lies with her entire smelly body on the cushions that we put our heads on. How I talk to the cat and greet him(mind you, my husband went through a depression from losing his job and Id come home to his scowl looking face and Mango would run to me for his greeting-Im sorry? i wanted to embark on a new relationship, and instead of prevented from doing so, because of the current interference from the cat. Have you tried talking to him about how it makes you feel when he prioritizes the dog over you? she even calls the dog on sometimes. Your bf has anthropomorphized the animals into his lover. I have spoken to her many times about my frustrations but she says I am overreacting and insensitive. What was the result Im in the same boat my gf has a French bull dog and I cant stand him its driven us apart the only way I see a light at the end of the tunnel is if he goes But u seem the same so wanted to see how ur situation panned out. He had some trouble with house training but overall was doing well. As for your other issue, this is something that will require a serious heart-to-heart with your boyfriend. Animals are extremely smart when compared to their loving owners. If you can just hang in there, things will probably get a whole lot better! Happier than weve ever been with our crazy dog! !! So thats another issue. If the dog is a grown one, the house training needs to be done again! 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